If a 2 can prove their indispensability and win the partner over, the relationship seemingly promises to alleviate the core fear of “I’m not lovable.” This relationship pattern can of course describe a marriage, but nowhere is this story more dramatized than in an unhealthy guru/devotee relationship.

Secondly, the relationship represents a challenge and an opportunity. For a person that just naturally wants to give warmth, companionship, and gifts from the heart a relationship with a powerful other seems to be an attractive way to get safety and security needs met without directly having to find a way to monetize their love or work at a soul sucking, uninspiring job. Many 2s find themselves in a relationship with a powerful, yet somewhat unavailable other. Premka: White Bird in a Golden Cage: My Life with Yogi Bhajan: Autobiographical Memoir What NVC does do, is give one the best chance to improve an existing relationship or build a new one and if not that, a commitment to NVC can provide answers in regards to whether a relationship is healthy and truly capable of serving those involved.Ģ. While NVC doesn’t automatically guarantee that a significant other will meet one’s needs or wants, it should be remembered that years of sacrifice and favors doesn’t either -something many 2s come to know all too well at one point or another. As NVC rightfully points out, the byproducts of giving with strings attached -blame, assumption, and criticism -are also “violent” communication methods that are counterproductive to long-term relationships, getting one’s wants and needs fulfilled, and also one’s own mental heath.

While I recommend NVC for all types, it is particularly relevant to 2s because it forces one to break the cycles of giving to get, resentment, and covert control that characterize 2’s disintegration to 8. When it comes to communication in intimacy and relationship, violence is not only limited to outbursts of yelling or derogatory name calling, as the provocatively titled Nonviolent Communication (NVC) points out. Nonviolent Communication ( NVC: communication practice)

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